When to say goodbye to your boyfriend
Sometimes when you’re in a relationship, whether you’re just starting out or an old one, it can be hard to tell when it’s the right time to break up with your boyfriend.
When you’ve just been with someone it’s easy to dismiss the red flags because you want to give your relationship with your boyfriend a chance. You’ve let them into your life for more than just their beautiful smile, so why not hold out a little longer and see if it gets better, right? Well no, not always.
You have to be open to the possibility that love is not always enough and that there are times when it just ends. Or maybe there is no connection to make it last, so it is useless to keep trying because it will cause you nothing but pain and sadness. Perhaps it is better to end it sooner rather than later.
What is happening to you is normal and you just have to hold on and breathe, finding a way to fight it. Similar feelings can arise when you have been with someone for a long time. You may be fed up with their habits, their quirks that you can’t stand, or may simply start to miss the single life where you only cared about yourself and had no more dramas.
These are all completely common sentiments, but it is also important to make sure that you want to end the relationship for the right reasons.
If you find yourself in this situation, think about whether your real problem with your boyfriend is simply boredom and routine, or it could be your curiosity to be with other people.
In cases like this, breaking up is not necessarily a good solution in itself or a good long-term measure, because these are things that happen in absolutely every relationship, so fixing and resolving them only depends on you and your willingness to fight to keep alive what once brought the two of you together.
Unless you’re 100% sure that you don’t want to continue the relationship with your boyfriend, it can be a very helpful thing to talk to the person you’re with about how you feel. In the end, no one is a mind reader or a fortune teller, so it’s only fair that you give them the opportunity to change their ways if that’s what’s bothering you.
All you have to worry about is being able to do it calmly, expressing in a sincere way and without retorts, everything that doesn’t make you happy and is taking away what you both had. Avoid arguments, reproaches and attacks. This will only make the situation worse.
If you are bored, then try to find new things to do together. Taste a cuisine you’ve never tried before, a weekend break somewhere far away. Just create new memories and new experiences with your boyfriend. Start from scratch. Change the routine. Surprise and get to know each other anew.
If you are in a new relationship it may be easier to walk away. Less time and energy has been invested at this point. However, if you want the relationship to work, find out what will make you feel more comfortable and let your boyfriend know. Only with communication is it possible to fix that damage in time, before it becomes a point of no return.
In general, everyone has their limits, and sometimes people know deep down whether they should end the relationship or keep looking for solutions and fighting for it.
In times of crisis, most of us turn to family and friends for advice. However, it is important to take the advice they give with a grain of salt, as it can open your eyes to things you may not have been able to see for yourself before. A second opinion from people who love you and whom you can value, to get out of the subjectivity with which you look at your relationship with your boyfriend.
One thing you should never underestimate is your happiness. If you are unhappy with this person and he doesn’t want to change under any circumstances, that should tell you all you need to know.