Some people who say spicy phrases during sex find they actually enjoy sex more, and others report having stronger orgasms. A simple technique to achieve a sexual connection is to say things that will make your lover feel good and perform better in bed. Talking about everything from what your day was like, any random occurrence that happened at work, or your plans for.

Most people can find it difficult to talk during sex. The art of sexual talk, like any other bedroom ability, requires practice, and you may find a few awkward moments until you have figured out what to say when making love with your partner. 

Here are some ideas of spicy phrases  you can say during sex.


“How does this feel?”

This phrase is incredibly powerful between the sheets, is short and sweet, but vital. Four words are sufficient to communicate to your partner that you care about their experience in the bedroom. Think of it like sexual customer service, and work for those Yelp stars.

Spicy phrases affects the brain differently than normal language, and this type of phrase can let your partner know that you’re interested in satisfying his or her needs, which is absolutely vital for deepening intimacy and improving your sex life. Listen, and allow yourself to be guided by their response.


Pardon our French, but there really are fewer spicy phrases hotter than this one during sex, that also don’t take The Lord’s name in vain. “Say it. Yell it. Swear it.” Let your partner know the intensity of your pleasure with this wonderful little word. Conveying your pleasure in this way can turn your partner on, and the expression of this word can help break any emotional tension that might exist, making for a more intimate experience.

“You are hotter than ever.”

You can never go wrong when you compliment your partner’s looks or sex appeal – they will thrive on it. Being called hot, sexy as hell, or lively will elevate their self-esteem. Each time you have sex, compliment them on how wonderful they are instead of criticising your partner for the last time you had sex.

“Tell me what you want me to do.”

Giving your partner carte blanche and handing over the sense of power can open up new and exciting dimensions of pleasure in the bedroom. Dirty talk phrases like this, he notes, are great ways to begin role-playing or exploring the concept of control. Someone who is high-powered in their day-to-day lives, for example, might get excited when their partner uses dirty talk to assert dominance or vice versa. Just be sure to be safe, be respectful, and listen carefully. There’s a big difference between “Take me to the bed!” and “Tape me to the bed.”

 “Right there, that feels so good!”

With spicy phrases, directions are the best way to get us where we need to go. And the more specific, the better. This type of spicy phrase communicates exactly what you are enjoying, which is important for both you and your partner. Good sex and good communication are intertwined. Everyone has different preferences, turn-ons, and turn-offs, and we have to remember that our partners aren’t mind readers.  Communicating exactly what we want leads to increased arousal and sexual satisfaction.

“I’ve thought about this all day.”

Don’t just save these spicy phrases for your cheat day pizza. Although, upon hearing it, your partner’s sex drive will sizzle, and you’ll both be craving delivery. Saying this dirty talk phrase in the moment achieves a seemingly simple task: letting the person you are with know you have been thinking about them and, more specifically, have been looking forward to having sex with them all day.

“I like kissing every part of you.”

It may be overly simplistic, but it always works! Let your partner know how much you love every inch of hers through a gesture of kissing. 

“I will kiss you where you want me to.”

Demonstrate to your partner that you deeply care about their pleasure and will do whatever to satisfy them. Kiss them wherever they want, and they will significantly appreciate this form of affection. In addition, this can also offer your partner the impression of being in control. 

“I’m gonna screeaam!”

Those sexual relationships where you can let go and just express yourself however when it comes to bed are the very best. For all you screamers in the building, did you know even your regular heads up can be dirty talk enough for your partner?

“Please don’t stop”

You know you’re on the right track in bed when the person you’re having sex with starts begging you to keep going. Why stop and risk them not getting the message when you can get a more guaranteed result by being more specific with your plea?