However, moaning can mean something else entirely when associated with sex. Whether you heard it in porn, while watching a movie, or even through the very thin walls of your college dorm room, there’s a good chance you know what sex groan sounds like.

People, especially women make noise, even when they are having sex. Some people may also shout and scream in bed. And if you recollect your memories of any lovemaking scene from the movies, you will have people (usually the woman) moaning over and over again as the scene gets hotter. So why are people moaning during sex?

Moaning during sex – is it a real thing?


While some men would say that a woman groan happens because they are such amazing lovers and their moaning indicates their sexual prowess, it is not always true. Women moan during sex for various reasons, that we have tried to cover below.

Moaning out of pleasure

For women, intimacy and moaning go hand in hand. For many people, moaning is a natural response to pleasure that they get during sex. As the person gets to climax and feels pleasure, they moan involuntarily in ecstasy.

Noise is a sexual turn on

Moaning is a way of reassuring your lover that he or she is pleasing you. You use all of your senses to have sex, and your audial senses should not be ignored! It’s important to make noises of pleasure so your partner isn’t put off thinking the wrong thing by silence. A major benefit of sexual noises is that—if genuine—they demonstrate that the partner is not indifferent; in this sense, any noise is better than complete silence. Moderate moans and screams during sex are quite beneficial for enhancing sexual satisfaction.

Moan to make it end quickly

Moaning increases pleasure, for both men and women. For those not in the mood, moaning helps to hurry things up. It helps with faking the orgasm and to also make him reach orgasms faster. Some women also scream if the sex is getting too exhausting and they want to end it soon.

They aim at arousing their men and get things done quickly. Many women have used moaning to get sex promptly done with, and it is all fine until the man knows you are faking it. Moans can be positive reinforcement and give your guy a boost of confidence, but faking it sends a mixed signal. By faking, we are teaching our partners to do exactly what doesn’t work for us.

There isn’t a right way to moan

If you’re sitting there thinking, ‘Is this a good moan? Is it loud enough? Too loud?’ You are not having the kind of moan that’s going to enhance your or your partner’s arousal. In any area of sex, there is rarely a one-size-fits-all. This is not the time to overthink. When you’re stuck in your head or critiquing your every move, it will take you right out of the moment. And trust me, there’s no fun in that. Or orgasms. Instead, take a deep breath (or two), lean into the moment, and let your body and mouth do what it wants.

How to use moaning to make sex better

There are a number of ways moaning can be used to make sex better. You could use it as an indicator to see what your partner does/doesn’t like, which will instantly make you a better lover. Try to detect when your partner is faking moaning and when they are making authentic sounds of pleasure.. this will guide you when it comes to pleasing them, but it can also help your partner feel comfy opening up and letting their walls down.

Moaning is one of those primal responses that happen when you let go of your inhibitions and simply experience the moment. People want to feel like they’re doing a good job in bed. It’s highly erotic to hear confirmation.

You might also use moaning to change the rythm in bed. If you moan softly at something your partner is doing, they will continue because they know you like it. Similarly, they will also get the idea of something you are not enjoying when you moan painfully. As simple as that!

How to tell if the moaning is a good or bad sign

Pay attention to your partner’s body language while they’re moaning because different kinds of moans mean different things. If the moan was sharp and surprised that could be pain or discomfort. If the moans are getting higher pitched and closer together, it might means your partner is close to coming.

If you’re ever confused about a good moan or a bad moan, take a beat to ask if what you’re doing feels good. You should never keep doing something that your partner isn’t enjoying. Communication is everything and the more familiar you become with your partner and moans, the better you’ll get at pleasuring them.