When a woman goes on a date, what does she look for?
A good date can determine the possibility of a next one, as well as the fate of a potential relationship.
A good date can determine the possibility of a next one, as well as the fate of a potential relationship.
A good date can determine the possibility of a next one, as well as the fate of a potential relationship.
If you are unsure of what women really want guys to do when they are meeting them for a date, you are not alone.
Women aren’t as complicated as men think. But it’s understood why men would find women complicated to read. It’s because we don’t ask but observe, especially on the first date with a guy. Also, we expect the guy to be sweet and respectful, which shouldn’t be too difficult.
Apart from these basic things, we also expect the guy we are going out with to do little things that make us feel super special. It doesn’t have to be a big romantic setup or an expensive dinner. Believe me, most women would simply want to see the person you are and how you treat them, rather than how lavish the date is.
First impressions count. It only takes a few seconds for someone to form an opinion about you based on your appearance and demeanor. A great way to make a positive first impression is to smile. Smiling is one of the habits of likable people, a sign of happiness and a trainable skill. By smiling more, not only will you start feeling better, you will also project some of that positivity onto those around you. It’s all about those good vibes.
The first time you meet with someone you know little or nothing about is full of uncertainty. Don’t make things more complicated by trying to arrange the perfect romantic dinner, or planning a whole day out. Instead, keep things short and simple. A cup of coffee in a central location will make it clear fast if your partner is someone you would like to spend more time with. And if things go well, the coffee could turn into a lunch or dinner, adding some spontaneity into the mix.
A simple compliment goes a long way. She probably took a lot of time deciding what she’s going to wear, how she is going to do her hair and put just the right amount of makeup for the date. Telling her she looks good or beautiful can actually make her feel you are worth all that effort. Don’t wait till you both go home to text it to her. Compliment her right then and there and see her blushing.
Most people are either nervous or take time to open up, which means they can be awfully quiet on the first date. Rather than filling the silence by talking endlessly yourself, ask questions and let her tell her stories too. Also, if you two are meeting at a cafe or a restaurant, don’t order for her or ask what she wants. Hand over the menu and ask her to order for the table to make her feel extra special and important.
When you are parting ways, give her a hug and tell her you had a great time. You don’t have to say you want to meet up again, if you aren’t sure or think she might not be. Hinting on a second date can be uncomfortable but telling her you had fun meeting her will absolutely make her think you are nice and not clingy.
Although equality is important in every relationship, women secretly hark after traditional values and want a man to show his assertiveness. When speaking before the date, men should try to ascertain what sort of woman he will be dating – does she prefer bars, pubs or something off-the-wall? If unsure, we always recommend to stick to classic location such as a nice cocktail bar – women like to be impressed.
We all love to talk about ourselves – but don’t assume your partner finds you as interesting as you do. In fact, making it all about you sends the wrong signals. On the other hand, you can’t just switch off and leave all the talking to your partner – that’s also a recipe for failure. The trick is to listen intelligently and respond appropriately.
Women are often more anxious than men, particularly when it comes to dating. Women will expect men to suggest a second date straight after the first one if the evening has gone well. If this hasn’t been arranged or suggested quickly, women will worry that the guy didn’t actually like them and will get disheartened.
The most important thing to do is to be confident. Don’t doubt yourself. Don’t nag her about whether or not she likes the food, or is having fun. If she’s not having fun, you’ll know it. Confidence is the most attractive quality you can have, so showing your girl an original, exciting and spontaneous time is key.