Let’s start by saying everyone has common sexual fantasies. Yep, the entire human race has a mind that drifts to the gutter at least some times. Many folks feel ashamed of their turn ons and inner erotic thoughts, but no matter what the fantasy is, it’s completely normal!

In fact, evidence suggests that those who have sexual fantasies experience less anxiety and a greater sense of self-esteem. Daydreaming about sex is completely normal, and acting on a shared fantasy may even help spice up a relationship. Just make sure that you establish consent and boundaries with your partner.

The typical male thinks about sex almost twice as much as the average woman – therefore they spend much more time than a woman exploring their fantasies! Let’s have a look ath the most common sexual fantasies men think about all the time.

Here are the common sexual fantasies guys wish their partners would try.

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Multi-partner sex

This is for sure one of the most common sexual fantasies for men! No real surprises, here.

Multi-partner sex involves sex with more than one partner of the same or different genders. Sex with three partners may be called a threesome and more may be called an orgy.

A whopping 89 per cent of people say they fantasise about having a threesome. Straight males are more likely to fantasise about having a threesome with two women, of course.

Men fantasize about having threesomes, foursomes and more because they want the purely sexual experience that is more animal than it is relational. There’s implied monogamy in most relationships, but threesomes and orgies open up that monogamous relationship to allow sex with others and at the same time, close out the personal feelings you have about a long-term partner.

Power, control, or rough sex

Sadism and masochism (S&M) and bondage, discipline, dominance, and submission (BDSM) make up the second place in our list of the most common sexual fantasies. BDSM is basically about the consensual exchange of power in a sexual or nonsexual situation. Rough sex is a sexual act that is aggressive, animalistic, and perhaps somewhat violent. It is often depicted as more passionate than other kinds of sex, but can also be associated with unhealthy abusive sex. Though, rough is not inherently dangerous or abusive. Some people are aroused by light restraint, others by intense physical pain.


Men like to watch. They’re naturally visual — often more so than women. This makes porn a huge hit with men, while more women will prefer novels like Fifty Shades of Grey, which provide a different type of fantasy stimulus. Voyeurism also makes fantasies about watching sex enjoyable for men. Voyeurism is basically arousal caused by watching an unsuspecting person or people engaged in a private intimate or sexual act. A small 1991 study found 54% of men have voyeuristic fantasies. Meanwhile, a 2006 Sewdish study found that of 2,450 adults surveyed in 1996, 7.7% had reported becoming aroused watching other people have sex.

Sex in public or in an unusual place

At the third place of our list of most common sexual fantasies we find sex in public, which is a fantasy that may fall under exhibitionism. Also making it in an unusual place is a very common fantasy for men: sex on a beach or mountaintop, boning in an airplane bathroom or while wearing a butt plug, getting it on in a park.. Fantasies that center around novelty (incorporating a new sexual activity like anal or oral) or adventure (having sex in a new location) are common. In long-term relationships in particular, keeping novelty alive is paramount for fighting bedroom boredom and maintaining an active sex life.

Meaningful, romantic sex

This is certainly one of the most surprising common sexual fantasies on this list. Men like feeling the love. The majority of men say they crave ‘meaningful’ sex that makes them feel desired, appreciated and loved. Feeling that they are irresistible – and that their bedroom performance is well-received – also rates highly.

Turns out, long walks on the beach, candlelit dinners, and eye contact during love making aren’t just romantic hyperbole. They’re all part of the fantasy of being desired, intimate, and romantic.

Virginal women

The first time is iconic. And because it happens once and only once, it’s valuable. Perhaps this is why having sex with a virginal woman is one of the most common sexual fantasies for men. Men fantasize about taking virginity and teaching a student about sex because it puts them in a position of power and on the pedestal to receive adoration. This hand in hand taking and teaching is an attractive and crucial aspect of the virgin sex fantasy. They see themselves teaching the virgin in the ways of sex.