Looks, love, career and confidence – some women have it all and make it look easy. What is their secret to balancing all of these things so effortlessly? It’s easier than it might seem: toy boys. Dating a younger guy has been all the rage for quite sometime. And if you’ve ever dated one, you know that there are many perks, but also lots of drawbacks, the most well-known of which is being a so-called cougar. Nonetheless, as women get older, many seem to be tempted to bite into the proverbial younger man pie. Here are some pros and cons to consider before you jump into cougarvile.

PROS of dating toy boys


This one refers more to the youthful spirit of younger guys than their youth in years. Not all older men of course, but lots can be jaded, bitter, tired, settled. The women that are attracted to toy boys are normally young souls inside and the negative aspects of older men do not appeal, as they are unable to relate.

Boost of confidence

Want to feel forever young and sexy? Dating toyboys can really give one’s self esteem a boost! It makes you feel younger, more powerful and more attractive than ever. Moreover, younger men are generally more grateful than older ones. They’re more thankful for the good things that come their way, or little things; they take pleasure in the more simplistic, enthusiastically. This is like a balm to an older woman.


Since he is probably still figuring himself out, you have the opportunity to mold him into what you want him to be. Guys tend to mature more slowly than women and at an older age. If you catch a guy during his formative years, you can influence the man he will become. This is great if you wind up marrying him and sometimes disappointing if you mold him into an amazing guy and some other girl winds up with him!

Older men think they know best and have the right to lecture you about it for two solid hours. Younger ones may be cocky too, but in a cute, trying-to-impress you way not a ‘you must agree with everything I say or you’re an idiot’ way. Besides, you can teach younger men stuff too. Toy boys haven’t decided what their ways are yet. If you’re lucky, you can get in their ways.

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Fun fun fun

He brings out your younger, spontaneous side. It’s a fact, when you hang out with younger people, your younger side comes out. As a rule they’re more optimistic, open to new things and generally less jaded about life, so expect happy dates instead of having to listen to tedious rants about the rising cost of living.

Less experience, more fun

He has less baggage than an older guy who has been with more women, and has done more things. A lot of times when you are dating, you are dating the guy and all of his baggage, i.e. his preconceived notions about women and relationships that he concluded from past experiences. A younger guy will have less of these experiences and be more open to his relationship with you.

They are mature

Toy boys are often far more mature than an older man, and that’s a great benefit when dating an older mature woman. Although many older women are young at heart and in spirit, because they’re women and because of the responsibilities many of them have, maturity in a younger man makes for greater conversation and greater connection.


It’s all about having the right toyboy companions! Healthy diet, adventure and toy boys can keep a woman in top condition.

Less possessive

Probably because they don’t have a crazy ex-wife who cheated on them with their best friend or something.


Toy boys can be nicer than older ones, nicer to women, nicer to others around them. They’ve not learned the level of cynicism often prevalent in older men. This goes well with the general niceness in older women, who, because they’re women, have an inherent nurturing quality that makes them naturally more empathetic and conscientious.

The obvious pro

Sex, sex, and more really good sex involving a man not so stuck in his ways he’s afraid to try something new.

CONS of dating toy boys

Different friends

Even though you relate to him, you might not relate to his friends because they might seem too immature for you. When you are dating someone younger, a lot of times, his friends could get on your nerves because they seem like children to you. Perhaps your guy is more mature, but what about his friends? You will need to figure out a way to tolerate them if you are into him.

Different looks

Toy boys won’t make your gray hair magically go away!

Come to think about it, there are not so many cons in dating a toyboy after all!